Thoughts on ways to create together

 

How much do I value the RELATIONSHIP with my collaborators?

How much do I value the GOAL we set out to accomplish?

 

DOMINATION  relationship- - -    goal+++++

I value my relationship with collaborators very little. The goal that we are trying to acheive is of primary value.

 

RESIGNATION  relationship -     goal -

I do not value the relationship with my collaborators, nor the goal that we are trying to acheive very much at all; both of these things hold equal value for me. Essentially, I’ll just do what everyone else is doing.

 

ACCOMMODATION  relationship+++      goal- -

I value my relationship with my collaborators more than I value the goal we are trying to achieve. I’ll usually make the choice to nurture a good relationship with my collaborators, sometimes at the expense of our goal.

 

COMPROMISE   relationship+/-       goal+/-

I’m totally neutral about my investment in the project. I value my relationships and the goal equally. I’m willing to sacrifice aspects of either if it benefits the other.

 

COLLABORATION  relationship ++++++++,  goal - - - - - -

I’m very passionate about my investment in the project. I value my relationships and the goal equally. I will fight for my point of view to be considered, and I will graciously leave space for others with as much vigor. Assuming these actions benefit the ultimate goal. (“you must be fearless in your giving and taking of the stage”)

 



 CHOOSE ONE:

 

A. There is one Leader; that person makes all of the decisions. Each member of the group does what the Leader asks of them without question.

 

B. Everyone is the leader. Every decision can be instigated and finalized by any member of the group.

 

C. Everyone is the leader. Every decision can be instigated and finalized by any member of the group for a predetermined period of time. When that time elapses, a leader (either chosen at the time or pre-determined) takes over and Mode-A kicks in.

 

D. A portion of the group form the Leaders. A portion of the group form the Doers.


FROM CLASSIC CONFLICT RESOLUTION PRACTICES:

 

Accommodation: I do what you want in order to satisfy your needs or wants. As a result, "I lose - you win," because I had to give up what I wanted or needed.

 

Competition: Either you or I will win, but not both of us. This is a form of fighting. As a result, "I win - you lose," because only one can win.

 

Compromise: You and I both give up part of what we wanted or needed to settle the problem. As a result, "I win some- you win some," because we were both willing to give a little.

 

Collaboration: You and I work together to find an agreeable solution to the problem. As a result, "I win - you win," because we were willing to work together.ere is one Leader; that person makes all of the decisions. Each member of the group does what the Leader asks of them without question.